Olivia Wilde talks about her love life in a new way these days. Not guarded, not performing, and not using carefully chosen PR language to fill in silences. Recently, on the cover of The Cut, the 42-year-old director said, “I adore him, and I feel completely whole and intact as a person.” This statement got a lot of attention. You can’t make up that kind of sentence, and she looks so much lighter.
Caspar Jopling is the “him” in question. He is a British art dealer who is 34 years old and doesn’t hang out with many people outside of certain London and New York social circles. It turns out that Wilde really values his privacy. “When you’re with someone who’s not in the entertainment industry or isn’t a public figure, I have a sense of, I want to protect this person as much as I can,” she said to The Cut. That instinct—the wish to keep something real from being squished by public attention—is kind of tender.
They were first linked when they were seen kissing in London in September. They were then seen together in New York. In November, they were having dinner at The Eighty Six in the city, and by January, it looked like things had moved past the early, tentative stage. One person who spoke to People said, “It looks like things are getting serious.” He told his family and friends about her.That’s not nothing. That’s a significant step.
By the time of the Sundance Film Festival in January, there was not much doubt. I Want Your Sex and The Invite are the two new movies that Wilde showed off, along with a picture of herself and Jopling hugging. It felt planned but not staged; the kind of moment you share because you’re happy and not trying to hide it, not because you’re making an announcement.
Jopling already has a life planned out for himself. He was married to singer Ellie Goulding from 2019 to 2024. They have a son together named Arthur, who is five years old. Wilde has two kids with her ex-boyfriend Jason Sudeikis. Their names are Otis (12) and Daisy (9). Mixed situations and complicated pasts. That might be exactly what makes them get along. Two people who have already worked hard to become their own people after relationships end.
And Wilde has made it clear that the time she spent by herself before Jopling was very important. “If you haven’t ever been single for a few years, how do you even know who you are?” she asked. It sounds less like a talking point for therapy and more like something she really believes, something she earned. Even though they sound the same on paper, those two things are not the same.
In the meantime, her relationship with Sudeikis seems to have become stable and even warm. She said, “They are very, very, very different people who get along much better as friends and co-parents.” She also said, “Their arrangement is flexible and fluid.” She once missed a day with her daughter so that the girl could go to a soccer game with Sudeikis in Brooklyn. Later, she got a picture of her daughter sitting next to Spike Lee and Mayor Mamdani. She said, “I was like, ‘Fuck, yeah!'” That sounds like a woman who isn’t holding on to old grudges.
In another draft of this story, there would have been more drama, tension, and arc. But what’s going on between Olivia Wilde and Caspar Jopling seems less public and more real. A filmmaker who is dating someone outside of her field and says she feels complete. The headline isn’t meant to shock anyone. It’s just what seems to be true this time.
